Caregiving: How to Start the “Tough Conversation” With Mom and Dad

It’s often the way of life that you end up having to look after the ones who looked after you for your whole childhood, and even throughout young adulthood. You want to make sure that your parents have the care and support that they need when they reach a certain age, but it can be difficult to bring that conversation up initially.

If the tough conversation is in your near future, here are some tips on how to approach it.

Have the conversation before you need to

When it comes to planning for your parents’ aging care, it is better to have the conversation sooner rather than later. If you only start talking about it as a response to their deteriorating health, decisions might need to be rushed. In the unfortunate event that a parent develops dementia, for example, they might not be in a fit state to have the conversation and make decisions about their own care. Having the conversation early makes sure you’re prepared for whatever happens in the future.

Do some research

It can be good to do some research of your own before you start the conversation. Understand the different options for your parents’ care, such as assisted living, independent living, retirement communities, rehabilitative care. Form an opinion about what you think is best for your parents and talk to any family members that’ll be involved to make sure you’re on the same page. When you then talk to your parents about it, you’ll be fully informed and able to tell them what you think.

Be direct, but empathetic

It might be an uncomfortable conversation to have, but beating around the bush isn’t going to help any decisions be made. Be direct when you approach the conversation, but make sure you’re empathizing with your parents’ feelings, too. Consider how they’ll be feeling in this situation and be sensitive about those feelings.

Listen to them

Your parents will probably want to retain as much control as possible as they age, including through this decision-making process. So, when having this conversation, it’s important that you’re not just talking at them and telling them what to do. Ask them questions, ask for their opinion, and, most of all, listen to their answers. You should offer your advice and your opinion, but it’s important that they’re still the ones making the decisions, as long as they are fit to do so.

Talking about aging with your parents can be difficult, but if you start early then you’ll be better prepared when the time comes that they do need extra care. Bermuda Village at the Bermuda Run Country Club has been recognized as one of the best places to retire. Get in touch if you’re looking for independent living in North Carolina.


7 Reasons Why You Should Choose Bermuda Village

Are you looking for a care solution in North Carolina for yourself or a loved one? Our retirement community in Bermuda Run is the perfect solution. But why should you choose us over the other options? Here are a few important reasons why Bermuda Village is the top choice.

1. You can still own your own home

We want you to retain your independence and control here at Bermuda Village, so our independent living options allow you to own your home within our grounds. This means you can decorate your home however you’d like, making it really feel like your own. You also benefit from maintaining your own equity.

2. We serve great food

You can forget the stereotype of unappetizing, mushy food in retirement communities. We serve food daily in our pub and Clubhouse dining room, with a variety of meals and specials on offer. You can even have your food delivered to your home for you.

3. You can enjoy the Bermuda Run Country Club

Our retirement community is contained within the grounds of the Bermuda Run Country Club. You can join to enjoy all of its perks and facilities on your doorstep, including a golf course, swimming pool, clubhouse, tennis center, and more.

4. There are lots of activities

We run lots of activities within our retirement community, too. We have groups for lots of different hobbies and interests, fun games like bingo and bridge, and more active things like fitness classes and ping pong. You can enjoy the outdoors in our Japanese garden or on our shuffleboard and croquet courts.

5. And opportunities to learn

If you want to keep your mind active as well as your body, then we also have programs to help you continue your learning. Our Lifelong Learning Program covers a variety of topics, or you can attend lectures with our Bermuda Village College series. We also have a library filled with a great range of fiction and non-fiction books.

6. We run social events throughout the year

Socializing doesn’t have to end after retirement. In fact, you’ve got even more time for it. We arrange regular social events to help our residents get to know each other and make real connections. Unwind over a drink at either our coffee hour or cocktail hour, enjoy some live music, or sit down for a movie with your peers. We also organize special themed events like murder mystery nights and beach bashes.

7. We provide care solutions to suit you

Whatever your needs, we provide a range of care solutions tailored to you. Whether you need around the clock care or occasional support, our team are here for you. We can provide rehabilitative care when necessary, too.

If you’re looking for an independent living or assisted living solution for you or a loved one, then get in touch to arrange a visit or to ask any questions.

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